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Back To School Manners
You're busy stocking up on school supplies, clothes, new shining shoes, and lunch boxes. But are your kids ready for all of
the social challenges awaiting them as the school year begins?  Together we can get them (and you) prepared.
Be a Positive Example
Manners start at home.  The way you act around your kids and the way your kids see you act around others is the
foundation of their manners and thus their future. Think about your typical morning routine.  Are you organized and
focused?  Do you stay calm when time starts getting away from you?  Do you give your children the attention, time, and
physical contact they need and desire? By making time for your children, whether joining them at the table for breakfast,
chatting during the drive to school verses being on the telephone, or sitting down this them after school to debrief and
share their day, shows them they are valuable as well as teaches them how to value others.

Another aspect of manners is being able to respect others. The way your children will gauge your respect for others will, in
part, be influenced by how they see you treat everyday situations; traffic laws, crossing guards, or meting
deadlines/appointments. If you think it is okay to disrespect authority, they will too.
Talk to Your Kids about Manners
Talk to your kids about manners.  Teach them the three R's before they get to school:
Respect for self; Respect for others and to accept Responsibility for all their actions.   
Talk to them and show them how to develop strong character and personal integrity, and
share your knowledge and your skills to the best of your ability.

Some basics to reinforce in and out of the classroom:

  1. Be on time
  2. Don't tell lies - to anyone
  3. Don’t answer back
  4. Don’t be noisy or disruptive
  5. Co-operate with others
  6. Pay attention and be present
  7. Don’t talk while others are speaking
  8. Don’t fight, pull, push or shove anyone.  Don’t steal from anyone
  9. Never bite anyone
  10. Pick up your own litter
By Manners Queen Constance Hoffman
How to Get Your Child to Behave at a Restaurant
Pick the right restaurant. Chain restaurants are great because they’re used
to serving families and they’re trained to turn over tables fast, meaning you’ll
get your order in and get fed in a hurry.

Get a booth. It provides the all-important buffer zone between your family and
the rest of the restaurant.

Reward kids for good behavior. To get your kids to behave during the meal,
tell them you’ll take them out for ice cream afterward. Don’t offer dessert at the
restaurant—it just adds to the sitting time.

Bring a “restaurant kit.” This would be a bag filled with crayons and paper,
small puzzles, Legos (depending on age of child), or a handheld electronic
Follow these tips from Stacy DeBroff, author of The Mom Book, on how to get your kids to "sit down" in a sit-down restaurant.
Back-to-School Sleep Tips for Kids of Every Age
Don't underestimate the power of rest for a successful school year.

Get the kids to bed and up at the same hours each day – including weekends. Body clocks don’t know about the weekend.

Children's bedrooms should be cool, calm, dark (some may need night light) and preferably at least an hour before sleep
time, electronics free – including TV, cell phone, video games, internet access…

When kids can’t sleep well, ask them to take a hot bath before sleep – let them stay in and sweat, which can improve deep
and REM sleep (this won’t work for everybody, but most). Teach them that sleep remakes their brains – it’s necessary for
learning and memory, including muscle memory and all sports.
Ages 5-12
Make sure they get lots of physical activity during
the day, hopefully stopping 2-3 hours before sleep.
Ask them to read by themselves, or, if you have the
time, tell them stories before bedtime; then ask them
to make up different endings and tell you a story.
Have them make up dreams they’d like to have, and
ask them about them in the morning.

Allow plenfiful naps especially in the afternoon –
these kids need 10-11 hours on average of sleep.
Reading improves sustained attention, necessary for
sustained achievement.
Ages 3-5
Emphasize telling or reading stories before bed. Have the child try to
create her own story. Ask about dreams in the morning, and try to
make a story out of the dreams. If they dream of monsters, let them
imagine the monsters are friendly and under their control. Let them
nap – kids this age need 11-13 hours of sleep.
Ages 12-18.
An interrupted brain is a non-attentive brain; turn off
electronics at least an hour before sleep – make sure they’
re off yourself; if necessary, get them out of the room.

Use reading if you can as part of their one hour presleep
ritual to calm down.
Let them go to bed relatively late if school times are late;
otherwise make sure they get lots of sunlight on waking as
early morning light switches their body clocks earlier.

Allow long naps on weekends; teenagers need on average
9 1/2 hours to learn well and control weight. If they refuse
to make any changes in their sleep patterns, ask them to
try changes for 1-2 weeks and then see the results – they
should feel more alert, more aware, have an easier time in
school and sports.
Written by Dr. Matthew Edlund for Hybrid Mom.
Is it a cold or a flu?
Your child is sent home from school with a sore throat, cough, and high fever — could it be the flu that's been going
around? Or just a common cold?

Although the flu (or influenza) usually causes symptoms that make someone feel worse than symptoms associated with
a common cold, it's not always easy to tell the difference between the two.
Symptoms Guide

The answers to these questions can help determine whether a child is fighting the flu or combating a cold:
If most of your answers fell into the first category, chances are that your child has the flu. If your answers were usually
in the second category, it's most likely a cold.

But don't be too quick to brush off your child's illness as just another cold. The important thing to remember is that flu
symptoms can vary from child to child (and they can change as the illness progresses), so if you suspect the flu, call
the doctor. Even doctors often need a test to tell them for sure if a person has the flu or not since the symptoms can be
so similar!

Some bacterial diseases, like strep throat or pneumonia, also can look like the flu or a cold. It's important to get medical
attention immediately if your child seems to be getting worse, is having any trouble breathing, has a high fever, has a
bad headache, has a sore throat, or seems confused.

While even healthy kids can have complications of the flu, kids with certain medical conditions are at more of a risk. If
you think your child might have the flu, contact your doctor.

Some kids with chronic medical conditions may become sicker with the flu and need to
be hospitalized, and flu in an infant also can be dangerous. For severely ill kids or those
with other special circumstances, doctors may prescribe an antiviral medicine that can
ease flu symptoms, but only if it's given within 48 hours of the onset of the flu.

Most of the time, you can care for your child by offering plenty of fluids, rest, and extra comfort.

And if the doctor says it's not the flu? Ask whether your child should get a flu shot.
Flu vs. Colds: A Guide to Symptoms
Was the onset of illness …  
Does your child have a
High fever?
No (or mild) fever?
Is your child's exhausation level
Is your child's head
Headache Free?
Is your child's appetite
Are your child's muscles
Does your child have
No Chills?
Clenched teeth. Rapid breathing. Red face. Teaching kids a new way to cope with their intense feelings is not easy—
especially if they have only practiced aggressive ways of dealing with their frustrations. The good news is that although
aggression is learned, so too is calmness. Learning any new habit takes time-- especially expressing anger more
constructively, so don’t give up! If you’re consistent, you’ll be able to help your kid learn a healthier way to handle his
anger. You may also be able to help him discover the source of his anger.

Anger is normal, but how a child displays anger can be appropriate or inappropriate. And that method can become a habit
that is difficult to re-frame. My goal is always to help parents teach children healthier habits. Here are five steps to guide
you in squelching inappropriate anger in your child and teach him healthier ways to express it.
Step 1. Identify Anger Warning Signs

Explain to your child that we all have our own little signs that warn us we’re getting angry, and
that we should listen to them because they can help us stay out of trouble. Next, help your child
recognize what specific warning signs she may have that tell her she’s starting to get upset. For
example: “Looks like you’re tense. Your hands are in a fist. Do you feel yourself starting to get
angry?” Anger escalates very quickly. If a kid waits until he is in “melt down” to get himself back
into control, he’s too late—and so are you to try and help him.

Step 2. Recognize Potential Anger Triggers

Every kid has certain cues that trigger deeper frustrations and unresolved conflicts that may resort in angry outbursts.  For
example: your child may feel unappreciated in your family, may feel inadequate in a competitive classroom environment, or
may suffer from low self-esteem. The key is to identify what causes the anger in your kid and help him be aware of it when
it occurs.

Step 3. Develop a Feeling Vocabulary

Many kids display aggression such as kicking, screaming, hitting, biting because they simply don’t know how to express
their frustrations any other way. They need an emotion vocabulary to express how they feel, and you can help your kid
develop one.

Here are a few: angry, upset, mad, frustrated, agitated, furious, apprehensive, tense, nervous, anxious, irritated, furious,
ticked off, irate. When your child is angry, use the words so that he can apply them to real life: “Looks like you’re really
angry. Want to talk about it?” “You seem really irritated.  Do you need to walk it off?” Your goal is to have your child be
able to label his upset feelings to you — without the inappropriate outburst. And when he does, acknowledge and reinforce

Step 4. Teach Healthy Anger Management Skills
If you want your kid to handle anger more appropriately then you must teach her a new behavior to substitute for the
inappropriate she now uses.

  • Use self-talk. Teach him an affirmation: a simple, positive message he says to himself in stressful situations. For
    example: “Stop and calm down,” “Stay in control,” “I can handle this.”
  • Tear anger away. Tell your child to draw or write what is upsetting him on a piece of paper. Then tear it into little
    pieces and “throw the anger away.” He can also use the concept by imagining that his anger is slowly leaving him in
    little pieces.
  • Teach abdominal breath control. Teach the method with your kid sitting in a comfortable position, her back
    straight and pressed into a chair for support.  Show your child how to inhale slowly to a count of five, pause for two
    counts, then slowly breathe out the same way, again counting to five. Repeating the sequence creates maximum
  • Teach “1 + 3 + 10”. Explain the formula: “As soon as you feel your body sending you a warning sign that says
    you’re losing control, do three things. First, stop and say:  ‘Be calm.’ That’s 1. Now take three deep, slow breaths
    from your tummy. That’s 3. Finally, count slowly to ten inside your head. That’s 10. Put them all together and you
    have 1 + 3 + 10, and doing it helps you calm down and get back in control.”

Step 5. Use Time Out When Inappropriate Anger Persists

Though you’ve taught your kid alternative strategies to handling strong emotions, old behaviors take time to replace.
Meanwhile, you can’t let your kid continue to display inappropriate anger. So explain that while it’s okay to be angry, he
must use words- not his fists- to tell how feels.
5 Strategies To Help Kids Express Anger
By GALTime Parenting Pro Michele Borba, Ed.D
Like other NHL teams, the Washington Capitals host a "Mites on Ice" youth hockey mini-game during the between-periods
intermission of home games.

On Tuesday night, the Reston (Va.) Raiders were selected to participate in an intra-squad mites game; and in an arena
that's seen its share of boisterous goal celebrations,the Raiders (ages 8 years old and younger) unleashed a unique
celebration of their own after each score -- dropping to the ice and, to the delight of the crowd, making snow angels.

Why snow angels? Turns out the celebration stemmed from a slight misunderstanding between the players and Capitals
promotions staff before the "Mites on Ice" game, according to Raiders coach Joshua Potter.

The Caps officials were pumping up the young players, talking about how big goal celebrations are encouraged in the
between-periods amusement. "They were giving examples of what they could do to celebrate, and one of them said, 'You
know, nobody has ever done a snow angel before. I'd love to see a snow angel. If anybody scores and does a snow angel,
you'll get the game puck,'" recalled Potter.

"I think they misunderstood and they thought if anybody does a snow angel they get a game puck, not just the scorer," he
said. "If you notice, a couple of players from the other team are doing it too."

The fans loved it, the players had a blast and the story had a happy ending: Despite his players having misunderstood the
whole "game puck" offer, Potter said the Capitals staff went to the team dressing room and presented each Raider with his
own official game-night puck to commemorate the event.

Obviously, the angels were on their side. "Maybe the 'snow angel' will be the next big thing!
The most adorable youth hockey goal celebration ever!
By Greg Wyshynski

@ Yahoo! Video
My daughter was so excited to attend one of her neighborhood friend's 2nd birthday party. My daughter is 3 so she is just
now getting into going to parties. She was so excited that she got up extra early. The party was to start at 1 pm which is
usually my daughters nap time (yes she still takes naps and I am super excited about that). I tried to lay her down early to
no avail because she was to excited about the party. So forgoing nap time we went to the party. When we walked in we
were immmediately hushed because the birthday girl was napping...what?! I mean I understand that children take naps but
why schedule a party to start during a childs nap time? Then the mom told me that she didn't have a scheduled nap time,
she naps anytime between 1 and 3...again I say what?! So why didn't they just have the party start at 3?
Also, everyone at the party had to basically walk on eggshells because they are one of those
households that make it absolutely silent when there little one is sleeping. I wasn't the only one
suffering, there were 5 other children at the party ranging in age from 18mo. to 4, whos parents
all had to keep them quiet as well. The parents of the little girl were the worst. They wouldn't let
the children play with any toys or even watch a movie (tv is banned during naptime). And even
worse the mother kept telling the parents, "You need to control your children." WHAT?! What
are we supposed to do, the kids were bored.
We ended up hanging out in the garage with the kids because the parents all but
kicked us out and it was raining to boot! We were all ready to pack up and leave when
the "princess" woke up. Fine! We thought it would get better. WRONG! Apparently the
birthday girl woke up on the wrong side of the crib (yes I said crib).
She screamed her head off whenever one of the kids touched her toys. The parents would then
take the toy away from the child playing with it and give it to the birthday girl, who would in turn drop
it and scream again because a different child was playing with another toy.
Did I mention this child has like every toy on the planet? OMG...I was
at the whits end and so were the other parents. We had had enough
and all started to pack up to go. The mother of the girl then basically
threw a temper tantrum (yes a full on temper tantrum) screaming
about how long it took her to get this party together and all the
money they spent to "entertain our bratty children". Well that did it for
one of the moms. "Our bratty children. The only brat at this party is
YOUR daughter!" she screamed. I thought there was going to be a
full out brawl in the middle of the living room. We grabbed our kids
and all but ran out of the house. With the parents of the birthday girl
spewing obsinities at us. Really?! What a disaster! I feel so bad for
that little girl. I don't think I have seen such a disgusting display by
any parents ever! Needless to say we will be steering clear of that
house until they learn some manners.
A birthday party disaster!
Saying "No" to Your Child -- by Sun Sign
Raising children requires not only cuddly love, but a little tough love from time to time as well. If you never say "no" to your
kids, they'll end up ill-suited to dealing with the real world as adults, so setting limits is vital, if difficult at times. And because
all Sun signs respond differently to "no," you must find a way around their unique temperamental quirks!

Aries will argue noisily when told that their adventurous whim has taken things a step too far, and they'll see "no" as a
challenge to be pushed aside. Try to turn it into a game rather than forcing your authority upon them.

Taurus is the master of passive resistance -- they may not argue, but they certainly won't budge, either. You'll probably
need to bribe them, since indulgences are their weak spot.

Gemini will argue the merits of your case every which way, leaving you confused while they continue with what they
shouldn't have been doing in the first place. But they do understand a brick wall when they meet it, so be persistently firm.

Cancer will flood you with tears and leave you feeling guilty that you've made them unhappy. Don't be manipulated by their
emotional games. They may be sensitive, but they're also tricky -- so call their bluff.

Leo will crumble if you criticize or say no, which in turn will make you wilt. Boost their confidence while, at the same time,
letting them know where the line of reason is.

Virgo will either act the part of a goody-two-shoes who never needs to be scolded, or turn into an absolute crybaby. Just
beware that they're adaptable, so endure their initial sulking -- they'll get the message quickly enough.

Libra will be sweetly reasonable, though they have a steely core and, at times, even a sharp tongue. You'll need to argue
the merits of your case, at which point they're bound to give in.

Scorpio may smile blandly, but it's a given that they're going to dig in their heels and protect their back. Expect some
difficulty getting your point across to a Scorpion!

Sagittarius will argue, stomp up and down and generally act prickly -- after all, Archers resent limits of any sort. But their
aggravation never lasts long, and they'll get in line once they've forgotten what all the fuss was about.

Capricorn understands limits quite well and listens to the voice of authority; at times, you might even wish they were more
rebellious. But when they do transgress, they'll listen to reason better and faster than most.

Aquarius is stubborn and independent, so they'll surely defend their corner. However, they tend to respond well to debate
and also appreciate jokes, so use your sense of humor with your little water-bearer.

Pisces will not confront you directly, but they can be irksomely evasive when it comes to agreeing to rules. Take the
roundabout route rather than putting your foot down -- if you appeal to their kind nature, they'll behave just to please you.
Q:What two things can you never eat for breakfast?
A: Lunch and Dinner

Q:While on my way to St. Ives, I saw a man with 7 wives. Each wife had 7 sacks. Each sack had 7 cats.
Each cat had 7 kittens. Kitten, cats, sacks, wives, How many were going to St. Ives?
A: Just one, me.

Q:A farmer in California owns a beautiful pear tree. He supplies the fruit to a nearby grocery store. The
store owner has called the farmer to see how much fruit is available for him to purchase. The farmer
knows that the main trunk has 24 branches. Each branch has exactly 12 boughs and each bough has
exactly 6 twigs. Since each twig bears one piece of fruit, how many plums will the farmer be able to
A: None. It's a pear tree. A pear tree does not bear plums.

Q:There is a word in the English language in which the first two letters signify a male, the first three
letters signify a female, the first four signify a great man, and the whole word, a great woman. What is
the word?
A: Heroine.